I've found only two people in my lifetime that can piss me off from 0-360 degrees in a nano second.  Those two people are my middle sister and my ex husband.  Those two know just what buttons to push on me and rile me up instantly.  I am a fairly calm person and when I have to deal with them I  explode rather quickly.  That does explain why my ex is my ex and why I only visit with my sister 2-3 times a year.   It is odd that they can still get that kind of reaction from me even when my New Year's resolution was to stay calm and centered in all situations.  Those two blow it for me every time.

My daughter and I are at a crossroads right now and I am not budging on my position nor is she on hers.  Due to the severity of the situation I felt I HAD to call her Dad.  This has been the only time I have had to call him in the last 16.5 years that I have raised her without him.  She despises the man but I feel it was my last resort.   Luckily all I have met with in my dealings with him is cooperation.  This amazes and delights me to no end.  We actually agree on the course of action to take and have agreed to be in agreement, a united front if you will while dealing with this matter.

He is not a bad guy in anyway, the two of us were just a really really bad mix.  He has been remarried for about 8 years now and is very happy and I'm happy he is happy.  There are no left over feelings nor is there resentment.  I am just glad we can put our differences aside for the good of our daughter.

lanaia74   lanaia74 wrote
on 5/8/2008 7:02:01 AM
X-husbands cn be a pain! Like me, just hold your head high and keep on trucking! Writing is a great way to vent your feelings! Keep writing!

StarPoet   StarPoet wrote
on 5/8/2008 12:02:56 AM
That you did come to an agreement for the sake of your daughter was good. It is a shame when a parent does not want to be a part of their child's life. But let me ask you something Danicpa. If your daughter was to do something great and make a lot of money from it, don't you think he will try to show up? So sad. But you keep on loving her for that is something she nor you will ever regret or forget.

Mike Firesmith   Mike Firesmith wrote
on 5/7/2008 7:56:26 PM
So are you going to tell us what's going on? Leave us hanging? Twisting in the wind?

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My ex husband and I only lasted 4 years. We have a beautiful daughter together and it was the best thing we ever did together. We have been apart since 1992.