A few kind words and a little reassurance may be all it takes to change the world.
My previous article compelled to you to look at the shame and
insecurities that are sometimes brought upon us by family, friends,
society and even religion. Now with that recognition, let us focus on
the more personal insecurities brought upon us by our own lowered
self-image, and on the opposite side, the positive influences we as
fellow human beings can and in a sense have a duty to share.
For
instance, on a journey to the west coast, my Special Lover and I
stopped in Las Vegas for a little sunshine and fun. A slight detour if
you may ... We stayed at one of our favorite stops, the Hard Rock
Hotel. We were perched in our special little area around the pool,
ordered our drinks and worshiped the sun for about 6 hours or so. It
was about 90 degrees if not hotter, perfect for our desires. Now as we
enjoyed all of this beauty that life had to share with us, I noticed a
couple of young women (in their mid 20s) sitting near us, one in a
string bikini, the other ... well her clothing concealed the bathing
suit beneath.
Understand me on this point: as a man, it wasn't
just that I wanted to see her in that suit buried deep beneath. It was
all about the energy I saw flow forth. In fact I talked to my lover
about this and we both agreed that it was the underlying fear we saw in
her eyes. Fear of revealing her body to all those around; let us call
it shyness laced with insecurity.
She sat there for hours baking
in the sun, her friend lying next to her totally comfortable in her and
I must say, very sexy string bikini. I just wanted to lean over and
tell her, that she too was beautiful and should enjoy the day, and for
her not to allow her fears to keep her from enjoying the sun and pool
to the fullest. As the day progressed I felt a little bit of sadness.
Why? Because of the strength of continued insecurities I saw build in
this innocent being laying next to us.
I thought to myself that
even being an author, being very familiar with self-help techniques and
with a willingness to share them, I did not want to embarrass her, or
look like a player pointing out to her that she too was beautiful and
shouldn't be afraid to show that beauty. My lover also felt her pain.
So the two of us continued to contemplate a tactful non-embarrassing
approach.
Lo and behold, after about three and a half hours
baking in that hot sun, she finally undressed and showed the pool her
swimsuit, yet even then she still had the desire to put on her skirt
each and every time she got up to walk around. So I again conferred
with my lover, she decided she should leave the area for a few moments,
that way I could take the opportunity to lean over and compliment this
shy little lady on her suit.
All it took was that - little
reassurance and a few kind words from another, for her to see the
beauty she already had, and for her to drop her fear and insecurities.
It amazed us, the change we saw take place. Her whole demeanor was
different. She now walked boldly and confidently. She also had a fresh
sparkle in her eye, and even stopped putting on her skirt when she got
up to walk around the pool area.
My point?
First and foremost on a personal level try not let your insecurities
get the best of you; enjoy the time you have and the places you visit!
Each and every one of us has some kind of beauty to share! If you come
from a place of love you cannot go wrong, so continually practice
loving yourself each and every day. When fear and doubts set in, to the
best of your ability broaden your self-love techniques, try to see the true beauty you have deep down within, it all begins there.
Also; when called upon (you know when this is),
share your feelings; give some simple and positive words of
appreciation to those around you. It only takes a moment and the
results can be amazing for all involved, bringing a little bit of light
into a seemingly dark world.
Last but not least, in All-Ways
remember that there is a fine line between a compliment for the sake of
creating joy and happiness, and a compliment that is geared in the
direction of making someone conform to what your ideals or wants are.
All you need to do is let your heart of hearts be the guide, and thus
with little or no effort at all you too can change this world.
[Copyright 2008 Michael Schuessler] www.theholyg-rail.com
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"Changing The World .............................."
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